The Courage to Receive: Part II

One of our TDAH! community members asked a powerful question after reading the last post: 

“Receiving is hard. Or maybe just being in the mindset to receive. It seems like an either/or thing. Can I give *and* receive?”

This is such an important question—because for so many of us, receiving *is* hard.

When I hugged a sweet woman recently, I could feel that she was only in “giving” mode. And while that’s not wrong, in that moment, *I* wanted to give to *her*. So I gently gave her permission to receive. 

It’s all about context and conscious awareness. In your everyday life, notice where you are—emotionally, relationally, situationally—and make mindful choices that keep you connected and safe.

As you grow and heal, you'll discover that you can give and receive with everyone you meet. How? Because love becomes your lens, not judgment. Through love, you'll know what boundaries to set—not out of fear, but out of truth.

 Boundaries are love.

You receive information about someone by how they show up. From there, you get to choose what you receive and what you give. 

With harmful people, I often say: “I love you enough not to let you harm me.”

That, my friends, is a gift.

Now, let’s talk about just receiving.

There are moments when it’s not only okay—but essential—to allow yourself to receive fully. Think about the last time you went out to eat—did you truly let the server serve you? Or when you’re watching TDAH! Lives—do you let yourself receive without feeling like you owe anything in return?

Start small. Find safe people and situations where you can just receive—maybe a hug, a kind word, or shared silence. You don’t have to dive in all at once. Just crack the door open. Try it. See how it feels.

And if it turns out someone wasn’t safe? That doesn’t mean you close off forever. It simply means they gave you information. That’s all. They gave you insight into who they are—not who you are.

Your Action Step:  

This week, choose one person and one moment to receive from—on purpose. Whether it’s letting a friend offer help, soaking in a compliment without deflecting, or fully enjoying a hug—pause and let it in. 

Then reflect: How did that feel in your body? What came up? What shifted?

Let this be your experiment in expanding your capacity to receive. Give it a try. ❤️

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