Choose to Be the Interrupter
Jun 30, 2026
There are days when you can get to the end of the day and wonder, “How did I even get here?”
Not because something huge happened, but because the whole day was made up of tiny moments.
Tiny decisions.
Tiny responses.
Tiny yeses.
Tiny noes.
Tiny things you reached for.
Tiny things you avoided.
Tiny patterns you repeated without even noticing.
All those tiny things matter.
Because so much of the way we live is not coming from a fully awake, fully conscious place. We move through familiar rhythms. We react from old stories. We repeat patterns that once protected us, but may now be keeping us stuck. And when we begin to wake up to those choices, not with shame, but with curiosity, we begin to create space for something different.
That space is powerful. That space is where change can begin.
Most of us don't realize how many choices we are making on autopilot every single day.
In this episode of the Be a Blaze Podcast, I talk about waking up to those choices, interrupting old patterns, and choosing from a more conscious, connected place.
🎧 Listen to podcast Episode 50: Awakening to 35,000 - Navigating Conscious and Unconscious Choices
So Much of Life Happens on Autopilot
Autopilot is not always bad. Your body knows how to breathe. Your heart knows how to beat. Your system knows how to do thousands of things without you having to think through every single one. That is brilliant.
And there are other places where autopilot may not be helping you.
Maybe you automatically grab your phone when you feel stress.
Maybe you say yes before you even ask yourself if you have capacity.
Maybe you shut down when a conversation feels uncomfortable.
Maybe you reach for food, shopping, scrolling, busyness, or numbing before you ever ask what you actually need.
Those automatic responses are giving you information. They are showing you where your nervous system may still be trying to protect you. Where an old belief may still be leading. They are showing you where you may be choosing relief in the moment instead of care that actually brings life.
And again, this is not about shame. It is about awareness. Because once you can see the pattern, you can begin to interrupt it.
Your Past Can Inform You Without Defining You
We all have places in our story that shaped us. Some of those places were painful. Some were confusing. Some taught us to protect, perform, hide, defend, shut down, or survive. And for a long time, those responses may have made sense.
At some point, we get to ask a different question: Is this still how I want to live?
Not, “Did this happen?”
Not, “Was it painful?”
Not, “Did it affect me?”
Of course it did. AND, your past does not have to be the thing making every decision in your present. Your past can become information. Wisdom. It can become a place you learn from instead of a place you live from.
That is a very different way to hold your story. You are not denying what happened.
You are deciding that what happened does not get to be the only voice leading your life today.
Notice Where You Go to Check Out
One of the easiest places to see unconscious choice is in the places we go to check out.
Sometimes we call it relaxing, but it may not actually be rest. Sometimes we call it taking a break, but it may be more like disappearing from ourselves for a little while. That can look like scrolling, snacking, shopping, overworking, avoiding, numbing, or staying busy so we do not have to feel what is happening inside.
And here is the important part. The behavior is not the deepest issue.
The question underneath is: What am I needing right now?
Am I tired?
Am I overwhelmed?
Am I afraid?
Am I overstimulated?
Am I trying to avoid a decision?
Am I looking for comfort?
Am I needing connection, rest, support, or clarity?
When you ask those questions, you begin to move out of autopilot. You begin to come back to yourself. And from that place, you can choose differently.
Decision Fatigue Can Push You Back into Survival
Sometimes we are not making conscious choices because we don't care. Sometimes we are simply exhausted.
When there are too many decisions, too many expectations, too many unfinished tasks, too many needs, and too much pressure, the nervous system can get overwhelmed. When that happens, even simple decisions can feel hard.
You may freeze.
You may avoid.
You may feel irritable.
You may want to numb out.
You may feel like you cannot sort through what matters most.
That is all information. Your body may be telling you, “This is too much. I need support. I need to slow down. I need to make this simpler.” So instead of waiting until your body is screaming, learn to notice the early signs.
Learn what stress feels like before it becomes burnout. Learn what pressure feels like before it becomes shutdown. Learn what overwhelm feels like before you are standing in a grocery store unable to make one more tiny decision. Those early indicators matter. They help you care for yourself before you hit the wall.
Have the Conversation Before the Spiral
One of the most loving things you can do is talk to yourself before the old pattern takes over. Not when you are already in the middle of the fire. Before.
Ask yourself:
What are my signs that stress is building?
Where do I feel it in my body?
What thoughts show up when I am overwhelmed?
What do I usually reach for when I want relief?
What choices tend to pull me away from peace?
What helps me come back to connection?
This is how you begin to prepare for a new response. You aren't waiting until everything falls apart and then trying to figure it out. You are becoming familiar with your own indicators. And the more you know your indicators, the more you can choose an interruption before the old pattern runs the whole show.
That interruption might be simple.
A breath. A walk. A list. A pause. A conversation. A glass of water. A boundary. A moment away from your phone.
The interruption does not have to be dramatic to be powerful. It just needs to be conscious.
Start with One Area
Please do not try to become aware of every single choice you make in a day. That would be exhausting. Start with one area.
Maybe it is how you begin your morning.
How you respond to stress.
How you use your phone.
How you make food choices.
How you talk to your kids.
How you handle conflict.
How you speak to your body.
Choose one place where you want to wake up. Then get curious.
What is the familiar pattern?
What usually happens right before it?
What am I believing in that moment?
What would bring life here?
What is one different choice I can practice?
This is not about perfection. It is about practice. One conscious choice creates a new pathway. And then another one. And then another one. That is how change begins to take root.
The Unknown Can Become Part of the Adventure
One reason we stay in old patterns is because they are familiar. They may be painful, but they are known. Change asks us to step into something we cannot fully predict. That can feel scary. And it can also be where the life is.
You do not have to know the entire outcome before you choose the next healthy step. You don't have to control every turn before you begin or have every answer before you practice something new.
You can choose what brings life today and allow the process to unfold. You can:
Be curious.
Notice what changes.
Learn your patterns.
Discover that the unknown is not always something to fear. Sometimes it is the place where possibility begins to open. That is part of being fully alive.
Choose to Wake Up Right Here
If you are making thousands of choices every day, then every day gives you opportunities to become more conscious. Not in a pressured way or perfectionistic way. In a curious, compassionate, awake way.
Where am I living on autopilot?
Where am I reacting from an old belief?
Where am I choosing temporary relief over true care?
Where is my body asking me to pay attention?
Where do I have authority to choose something different?
You don't have to change everything at once. Just choose one place to wake up. One moment. One pattern. One response. One decision.
And when you do, you begin to move through your life differently. More awake. More connected. More curious. More alive.
That is the invitation. To stop letting old patterns quietly decide for you. To become conscious in the places that matter. To choose life, one decision at a time.
And to have a beautiful, fiery, blazy day as you practice waking up to the choices that can bring real change.