The Secret to Finding a Four-Leaf Clover (And Why It’s Just Like Healing)

I love hunting for four-leaf clovers! There’s something magical about spotting that rare little gem hiding among a sea of three-leaf clovers. And if you’ve ever tried searching for one, you know just how tricky it can be—hence the whole “they bring good luck” thing. 

But what if I told you that finding a four-leaf clover isn’t actually about *finding* one? 

Stick with me, because I’m about to show you a simple trick that will totally impress your friends, your family—or at the very least, yourself! And hey, if no one else cheers you on, just message me—I’ll be your biggest four-leaf-finder fan! 

The Secret to Finding a Four-Leaf Clover 

Are you ready? Here it is: 

Don’t look for a four-leaf clover. Look for the three-leaf clovers.

Boom. That’s it. Sounds counterintuitive, right? Let me explain… 

When we get fixated on something—like finding a four-leaf clover—our focus narrows. We think, I must find one. I MUST FIND ONE. And when we don’t, we get frustrated, impatient, maybe even discouraged. We push harder, scanning the ground intensely, but the more we force it, the harder it gets. 

Ever been there? 

When we hyper-focus like this, we actually disconnect—from ourselves, from our surroundings, from the simple joy of the process. 

Try This Instead… 

Next time you’re in a clover patch, do this: 

1. Sit back. Take a deep breath. 
2. Notice the sounds, the sights, the smells. Feel the grass under your hands. 
3. Look down at the clovers—without trying to find anything specific. Just observe. 
4. Start appreciating each little three-leaf clover you see. "Oh look, another one!" 

And then… it happens. 

That tiny outlier, the one that doesn’t quite match the rest, will suddenly pop out at you. A four-leaf clover, appearing as if by magic—because you weren’t forcing it. 

And Here’s the Real Lesson… 

Sometimes, you won’t find one. And that’s okay. 

The other day, I sat in a clover patch, filming a video on how to find a four-leaf clover. I thought, I better find one, or this is going to be embarrassing.

Guess what? I didn’t find one. 

But instead of getting frustrated, I laughed—because that’s life, isn’t it? 

Just like healing, just like growth, just like anything worth searching for… sometimes, it doesn’t happen when we want it to. 

We can have the tools, the hope, the expectation, and still—nothing. We can either let that disappointment define us, or we can take a breath, stay present, and trust that it will come in its own time. 

So whether you're searching for a four-leaf clover or healing from past wounds, remember this: 

If you hyper-focus on what you desperately want, you’ll trap yourself in frustration. 

But if you take a deep breath, stay connected, and stay curious—the most beautiful things have a way of finding you when you least expect them. 

And when they do? Oh, the joy. 

Keep looking, keep believing, and most importantly—enjoy the process.